I'm changing my spouse's pseudonym to Jay going forward. It's the name she originally requested for this blog, but I insisted on designating her distinct boy and girl pseudonyms (Jake and Jasmine) to mirror her real-life boy and girl names. When I launched this blog she was either presenting in guy-mode or girl-mode, and I thought I'd be writing about those differing experiences. At that time, she'd also picked out her female name, with plans to legally change it further along in transition.
But she's not changing her name after all. And she's no longer presenting as one or the other gender. She's simply herself. Both genders, or neither.
After seeing other trans people use transition to reinvent themselves, Jay decided that's not the path for her. She is not trying to kill off Jake to create some new woman Jasmine. Rather, she's the same person (a person she likes!) who is simply trying to make her outward appearance match her inward identity. So in a rebellious act of self-love, she is keeping her birth name. Fortunately, it's a name that although typically given to males, is occasionally given to females as well (think Jordan for instance).
So from here on out, I'll be writing about my wife Jay. She is fierce.